You’ve always been a high achiever, a perfectionist; your work is your pride. You go to Uni. You want a first class degree. You have 3 tumultuous years. Suddenly you’ve graduated with a 2:1, but you’ve survived. You actually made it through, you never gave…
Since Tom’s birthday and starting this series, I’ve had even more messages from his friends. Every day I get to see how loved my boyfriend is. It helps you remember what is important, what is truly necessary. We aren’t given enough time to facilitate nastiness,…
I believe that not only do the biggest events in our lives shape us, but the smallest ones too. Going through a major journey like this is bound to change your outlook and also your everyday life. Here are a few ways in which I…
So my birthday came around at the end of April. Like everyone born at this time of year, 2020 didn’t quite bring the birthday I had planned for. I’d wanted to spend my birthday with Tom and then go out with all my friends, but…
As soon as COVID-19 became a serious threat to the UK, I stayed in my flat as much as possible. I knew that this would be another huge threat to Tom and seeing friends was just too risky when I was going to see him…
Please don’t use this post as advice. I’m gonna talk about personal experience, this is not professional advice. Medication is not necessary for everyone. I want to be completely open about this, so I’m going to put it out there that I am on…
This chapter may feel a bit different because some of these things feel so recent to me as I write. I mentioned earlier about how much I’ve learnt about cancer from this, and one of those is the extent of what the disease can affect….
I think what I initially felt as confusion, was actually anger. The things I was confused about, like: why this, why now, why us? I don’t think that anyone can really blame me for feeling angry about the situation. This is by far the most…
The next step in the process was managing Tom’s severe pain and looking at what treatment would suit him best. Unbeknownst to me, they do this by producing a DNA profile of the individual cancer- don’t ask me for any more detail than that. After…
After months of GP appointments and no answers, Tom found himself in A&E in serious pain. It was made very clear to us that the doctors were looking for cancer, it was just a case of finding it. When Tom texted me that it was…